Come on… Forget about it!! | Shraddha Shree Maharjan

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Forgetting and moving on has its reputation, doesn’t it? Something sounds damn good about it right?

Hey, you don’t just move on from a relationship. A breakup isn’t the only thing that happens to an individual. I mean yeah, a breakup is really glamorized in this day and age. But we do have a lot of other traumatizing experiences that people go through that they have to ‘MOVE ON’ from.

Forgetting and forgiving is rewarding for sure but when we dig deeper, it’s so hard to do, especially when the event has traumatized you enough to seek serious help.

Dealing with harsh reality of encountering life skill of taking things as a grain of salt is super tasty to think about but when it reaches the point of doing so, we fall behind. Not everyone is able to not take things personally. And that makes the ones who feel it real hard in the gut and feelings feel as if they’re way too sensitive and weak for the world to be living as an emotionally available individual.

At least that was the case with me. I kept disregarding my feelings as a human being and continuously passed comments like “ew what the hell is wrong with you? Look at her/him, they’re taking it so lightly, why are you soooo over dramatic? I must say you deserve it.”

No matter how much I knew that I was doing nothing more than delaying my healing journey by not letting myself feel the things that I felt, I kept going back to ‘pretending to be strong’ because that’s what society had fed me and is expecting from me.

Of course, I did that entire ‘talking to someone’ thing. Did it help? I’ll take the bold step of saying NO. Why? You may wonder? Because I was not ready to move on yet. I needed to learn what cut me deep and how to get my head out from the water. I needed to grow up more and that doesn’t happen overnight.

No? yes. I was still in the “it still hurts” phase because I needed more time to completely heal from it. But when I decided to call it quits with the internalized issues, I was able to welcome help and comfort from people who really cared love around me. More than anything, I was able to love myself.

Yes, it sounds repetitive, but you fully and clearly understand the idea of ‘loving yourself’ after being exposed to an incident/incidents that change you tremendously which led to completely lose yourself and hate the version of you that deserved nothing but love.

Being vulnerable is the best portfolio of yourself that you can exude to the public. Showing what you actually feel does not mean that you are not tough or strong. You handle things differently from the people who choose to not show slightest bit of emotions and you know what? That’s totally fine. And you know also is fine too? Not talking about your emotions.

Yes, it is recommended to talk about it but some cant. Really can’t.  I really don’t understand why there are rules and regulations and guidelines to every single thing these days. We’ve been accustomed to accept whatever is fed to us. We’re constantly ignoring the idea of ‘letting people be’.

So, no, you don’t have to forget about it.

You don’t have to act tough. You don’t have to rush to the healed crowd as quick as you can.

Just be you, as cliché as it sounds, be you. Take your time even if it means forever. You absolutely deserve to be at your best place at whatever time of the year during whatever day at whatever place. I appreciate you.

Much love!!

 

-Shraddha Shree Maharjan

 

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