By We belong to a typical traditional culture where fathers are the least interactive in the parent category. Be it for a son or a daughter; the go-to parent is the mother, while fathers are just there. We are never as frank to our father as we are with the rest of the family members. We even share the most profound secrets with our grandparents, but fathers have no information about our life. We only interact when we have to ask permission or when we are in trouble. Other than that, both of us are in our worlds.
This is what I and my father’s relationship was until I was a teenager. I still remember how my brother and I used to hand over the TV remote to our father as soon as he entered the room because we still do that. We used to give up our favorite TV show just because our father had to watch the news which we had no idea and interest in. We never even looked into his eyes while talking to him. But all of that changed, and I suddenly felt that my father was so cool.
It all started when I had my first period. My mother was ready to send me off to the neighbor’s home to stay there for a few days. Still, right then, my father stepped in and said, “कोई कतै जादैन। घर मै राख़्ने हो।” That day, I thought, “Wooaaaahhh Baba is really cool and daring” as he stopped mom (hahaha). If that day, he had not stepped in, I would have been a typical traditional girl who just follows what her traditional mother teaches her.
Since then, I have never feared my father for the right things that I had intended to do. We all have heard, “Behind every successful girl, there is an open-minded father who trusted her and not the society.” And I can never agree to it more than I do now. I do not intend to say I am very successful, but I definitely mean that I do have a father who is very open-minded and believe me in every decision that I made.
Describing a little bit about my father, he is someone who will never speak like literally never unless he really has to. He will not speak even if my brother and I are about to die fighting, our mom instead will come with a broom and hit us, but he will not even bat an eye on what we were doing. I think most of the time, he does not even listen to us, we have to say Baba please reply, and then only he will answer with just one word “hmm” to our question after asking us what we were asking. Relatable right? To reveal a secret, he is a politician, and I have never seen a politician who doesn’t speak like sometimes I wonder how even does he manage to give those long speeches in front of a massive crowd. He is so calm like the cow who sits in the middle of the road, but we all know what happens when fathers get angry. Whatever your age is or how much respect do you get in your professional life, that one angry stare is going to make you scared to death, isn’t it?
I have said so much about my father but forgot to mention that he absolutely has no idea of the names of my friends. I have friends who are at my house 24/7, but still, I have to explain their facial features to make him understand who actually I am talking about.
Nevertheless, just like my father has accepted me with all my flaws, I too ignore some of his limitations like the fact that he asks me the name of my degree every day and no matter how much I teach him he is going to come around and ask how to share a post in social media. Eh, we both are accepting our flaws and moving forward.
Everyone has the one who is very precious to them, I explained about my one and only here throughout the column. Happy Fathers Day Baba and to all the heroes out there who have been sacrificing so much to make their little ones’ life a little better than yesterday. Happy Father’s Day!
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